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ATTRACTING YOUR HEART'S DESIRE
AND HIGHEST GOOD

Question #1: "I hope this question doesn't sound strange, I just needed a bit of advice. Say in this life I really like someone but I can't be with them in this life, but I plan to marry them in the next life. Is it possible to follow them back and do that if I plan it in this life?"

Psychic Advice:
Souls often incarnate together lifetime after lifetime, playing different roles for one another so they can support each other in the growth and evolution of the soul. If you are so strongly attracted to a particular person in this life, it is highly likely that you have been together as mates in other lifetimes, and you will probably be together in that way again.

Since our experiences in each lifetime are designed to teach us different things about life, and help us to develop different facets of ourselves, it might be interesting to ask yourself what this experience of being apart in this present lifetime is teaching you. This is not just about getting what you want in the next life, but it is about getting the most out of this lifetime, because that is what you are here to do.

It may not be the best idea to have your heart and intention set on marrying this person in the next life. You can plan to be together again, but you cannot plan or determine the circumstances of that lifetime for another person. What if this person chooses to be homeless or abusive in the next life, or imprisoned, or a warlord in Africa or South America, or a drug dealer or gangster, etc.? Would you really want to be bound to that sacred contract of being married to that person under any circumstances? Of course, there would be plenty for your soul to learn in those situations, but the question is, would that really be for the highest and best good of your soul's evolution?

What may be better for you is to set the intention that you will be happily married to each other in another lifetime, where you will each experience the highest level of joy and fulfillment. This can give you peace, and allow for flexibility for each of your souls to experience what you each need to experience, and to come together under the circumstances that you would find most enjoyable.

Many souls promise to love each other eternally, and promise to be together again, but this can be very limiting to both of them. There are times when two people have a sacred contract to be together, but one person decides not to fulfill that contract in a particular lifetime. Each person has Free Will, so each person can decide to honor a contract, or break a contract, if they so choose. Perhaps you already followed this soul into this lifetime, seeking to be together, only to have this desire thwarted by Free Will and circumstance.

Be careful that your heart's desire is not overriding what is for your highest and best good. If you remain so attached to a particular outcome in this life or the next, it can limit your choices and options. You are likely to get what you ask for, but will it be what you really want? And will it be what is truly best for you? Such attachments to specific outcomes can lead to detours in your life path and life purpose, and can be counter to your highest good. From the soul's perspective, you will always learn from your experiences, so it is "all good", but will it be what is truly best for you?

The best thing is to simply love this person and wish them all the best on this life's journey. What you wish for another comes back to you tenfold, so wish for them all that you would wish for yourself to experience. Trust that your souls are connected, in this life and others, and then surrender to your soul's purpose and highest desires, and let that lead you to your joy, now and in the future. If the connection is so strong between you, you certainly will be together again.

Question #2: "Is there a power a person possesses that attracts the opposite sex to them that defies reason? What is it called?"

Psychic Advice:
When a person has a tremendous power of attraction it is often called many things, such as: charisma, chemistry, magnetism, sex appeal, star quality, the "it" factor, etc. This type of person often exudes a tremendous amount of sexual energy, and can even become somewhat addicted to sex, especially since it is so easy for them to attract willing partners.

A charismatic person is naturally magnetic and charming. They can usually use their magnetism to attract anything they desire, whether it is money, or positions of power, or promotions, or favors, or sex, etc. This type of person can get people to do just about anything for them, even if they don't particularly like them. This is a tremendous power of persuasion, and is not to be taken lightly as it can easily be abused and used to manipulate other people.

Both men and women can have this type of charisma. They will often be extremely flirtatious, even if it is completely innocent, because flirtation comes naturally to them. They often have a glint in their eye, a compelling smile, an underlying air of naughtiness, mischief or fun-loving nature, a sense of adventure and a willingness to try new things (even if they are a bit dangerous), and a raw sexuality. They can often have a "bad boy" or "bad girl" type of energy (and even be so bad that they seem good).

A lot of times, people in positions of power (from presidents, to bosses, to celebrities) can exude this type of sexual power over others. Many film and music stars become huge idols because they have this sexual power of attraction. It is actually a light that shines from them so powerfully, that it can reach across movie screens, televisions or magazines, attracting others to them and often transcending barriers of age, race, nationality, etc.

This type of power can be very easily abused. People are very vulnerable to love, to sexuality and to desire. Most people just want to be loved and accepted, and it can be very disarming to have an extremely attractive person be attracted to them. It can become almost mesmerizing to have a charismatic person focus that magnetism onto another, and both people must be very careful not to allow this to become a manipulation.

People have feelings, and can be easily hurt, especially once they have opened up sexually. Sexuality is not a game, and people's hearts and bodies are not toys to be played with. Flirtation may be harmless, but it can also be harmful. For some people, sexuality can almost be like going on a hunt, and there are many people out there who are weakened by their desire just to be loved, so they become easy prey.

The power of attraction is a great gift that allows one to attract whatever one desires. Those who have a powerful sexual attraction are often very creative people. It would be best for these people to set a clear intention of what they truly want to attract and experience, and let this intention come from the heart (instead of coming from the lower chakras). If your heart's desire is to spread love and joy, and receive love and joy wherever you are, then the attraction and fulfillment of your heart's desire will be for your highest good, and for the highest good of all.

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