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HEALING THE PAST,
FOR THIS LIFE AND OTHERS

Question #1: "I need to do some rapid clearing and healing to get rid of old pain so I can come to a place of true love with my soulmate. I feel that I am carrying a lot of pain - pain from previous lifetimes when we deserted each other/lost each other / whatever, and I want to let all the old hurt go. I get rid of one layer to find another. Please help."

Psychic Advice : We experience pain as part of life so that our soul can grow and evolve. All life experiences offer opportunities for growth and learning, but pain often demands profound growth. Unfortunately, although pain causes us to grow spiritually and emotionally, that pain does not necessarily heal unless we choose to heal it. Time will heal the wounds, but the scars will remain until we choose to let them go.

Some souls wear their scars as medals to prove that they have suffered through many battles, while others carry their scars simply to remind themselves of the danger of repeating certain experiences. For instance, once you have been burned on a hot stove, the memory of that pain will remind you to be cautious around the stove so you don't get burned again. For those who have been burned and scarred by love, loss and heartbreak, those scars may cause some people to fear love and commitment.

It is challenging enough for a person to heal the wounds and scars from this lifetime in order to live and love fully, and to trust again. Healing the pain from other past lifetimes can be infinitely more challenging on your own, but extremely rewarding because we are doomed to repeat certain patterns of experience until we learn from them, which is why you are encountering layer after layer of pain.

During the course of a reading, I find it very healing and powerful to access a person's past lives in order to discover the roots and origins of repeating or chronic issues that have no other explanation in this lifetime. Conditions such as chronic pain and illness, relationship problems, and even issues like fear of failure, or debilitating phobias can originate in a past life. Often, simply being aware of the root cause in another lifetime provides the key that opens the door to healing the pain and releasing the pattern in this lifetime.

The unhealed pain of loss and abandonment that you have felt in past lives has probably caused you to experience a pattern of loss and abandonment in this lifetime also, not just in intimate relationships, but potentially with others whom you care about as well. The pain of abandonment and loss in the past can create a fear of commitment in the present and the future, because the heart knows that the more deeply it loves, the more deeply it risks being hurt.

Unhealed pain from the past causes one to fear the pain repeating in the present and the future, so there is a sense of apprehension and lack of trust. This fear and lack of trust creates a vibration of energy that draws experiences to you that are on that frequency, so the fear becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, perpetuating more fear and lack of trust. This is why we must break the pattern in order to heal it.

You cannot heal pain simply by getting rid of it, because it is a part of you. In order to truly heal pain, you must embrace it, and the gifts and lessons that it brought you. Anytime you have a memory of pain, look at what you learned and gained from that experience, and embrace that as a gift of strength that empowers you. We often experience pain as a sense of loss - of losing part of ourselves, which leaves us feeling vulnerable, helpless and powerless. If we look for what we learned and gained through that painful experience, then we reclaim a part of ourselves, and become empowered, We can then gain even if we have experienced loss.

If you take the next step to feel grateful for the gifts and lessons that you gained from the experience, then you heal your heart and are fully empowered with the courage to live fully in the present and future. You will further free yourself from the pain of the past by embracing your newfound gratitude and power, and using it to forgive the past - forgiving yourself and the one who assisted you to learn and grow by being a co-creator of that painful growth experience with you. By embracing what you received with gratitude, you can release the pain of holding blame, which only serves to imprison you in the past, and trap you in that pain perpetually. Forgiveness breaks the negative bond of karma that binds you to that other soul for lifetimes, and sets you both free.

It is also important to get a sense of what you decided as a result of that painful experience, and how that decision has affected your life ever since. What did you decide about life? About yourself? About others? About love? For instance, if you got burned when you touched the stove, you may have decided to be careful and cautious near the stove, which is prudent. But if you decided never to go near a stove again, or never to step foot in a kitchen again, then you have created a challenge for nourishing yourself. To put this in terms of love, if you decided after being hurt or abandoned that you would be cautious about love, then it has affected your ability to trust or love fully, but you are still open to love, even if you are hesitant. If you decided never to love again, never to commit again, never to step into love's kitchen again, then you are starving for love, and preventing it from ever happening.

You must determine what you decided in the past as a result of your pain, and whether this decision is true for you now. You must decide whether this belief system that you have adopted is really serving you to create what you truly want for yourself, or is it so focused on protecting you from experiencing pain that it is stopping you from living life? You can choose to make a new decision for yourself now based on your newfound strength and courage that you gained from embracing all the gifts that the painful experience gave you. This is the only way to truly heal the past and be empowered to live fully and joyfully in the present and the future.

Question #2: "I can't seem to find where I was in a past life. The spirits keep telling me different things."

Psychic Advice : We often get glimpses of past lives, almost like a sense of déjà vu. It can come in a fleeting image, like a dream, or it can be a strong feeling or sense for a certain period in time, or a certain group of people, or a particular place that feels very familiar. Sometimes, everything can seem to be moving in slow motion as you are accessing a different dimension of reality in an alternate existence. We are multi-dimensional beings having multi-dimensional experiences simultaneously, so we can access other dimensions of reality at will. The key is to trust what you are seeing or feeling, and allow it to unfold before you, as you would when remembering a dream - don't chase it or try too hard to remember, or you will push it away.

Most souls have had many past lives, so your guides may be giving you bits of information from different lifetimes, or different snapshots in time from a significant past life. Often, it is your intention that determines what kind of information your guides give you. If you simply ask to be shown your past lives, then you may simply get a type of slideshow of various moments from various lifetimes. If you ask to be shown the root cause of a certain issue or pattern in your life or in your relationships, then you are likely to have a more particular experience that would address that intention. Remember that whenever you ask a question, the Universe answers, so in order to get the answers you are seeking, you must ask the right questions, then be patient and open to receiving the answer.

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