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How our spirit guides help us

Question: "Do we all have a guide or is it a group? I heard that we choose our guide before we enter a new life. What is the guide doing for us, is he trying to help us? How? He cannot prevent us from accidents, illness, poverty, unhappiness, disappointments and grief."

Psychic Advice : Most people have more than one guide, usually a group of three or more spirit guides. We do not necessarily choose our spirit guides before we incarnate - it is our spirit guides who actually choose to work with us. Before we begin a new lifetime, we review what we have learned and experienced in other lifetimes, along with what we have accomplished and achieved, as well as what we have not yet learned, experienced, accomplished or achieved. We examine the journey of our soul with the assistance of spiritual masters, who help us determine what we intend to learn, accomplish and experience in this lifetime, as well as what we are entitled to experience based on karmic factors from our previous lifetimes.

Once we set our purpose and intention for incarnating, spirit guides are assigned to us as teachers who will assist us to carry out our mission. They begin by helping us to select our parents and the ideal environment and circumstances in which we can have our intended experiences. We will observe our prospective parents until the time is right for us to incarnate through them into the physical. (Before we incarnate, our spirit guides will also show us "snapshots" of certain people and experiences along our journey, and then will give us a sense of "deja vu" from time to time to let us know we are on the right path.)

It is important to note that in the spiritual realm, there is only love and bliss, therefore, when we select the circumstances and intentions for our prospective lifetime, it is from a desire for the most growth and learning for our soul. Often, this completely disregards the potential for pain and suffering, because from the soul's perspective, there is no sense of pain and suffering. It is similar to mothers saying that they don't remember the pain of childbirth - if they did, they would not readily choose to undergo that pain again if their memory of it remained acute. A soul may choose to incarnate into life circumstances involving tremendous pain and suffering, such as war, starvation or abuse, for karmic reasons, or because pain often provides a greater opportunity for the growth and evolution of the soul.

Spirit guides cannot and will not interfere with a soul's choices once that soul is born. The Earth is a Free Will zone, therefore, once a soul is embodied, that person has complete free will to make whatever choices he/she chooses to make, and must then live with the consequences that follow those choices. Our spirit guides are simply that - they are spirit guides along our path if we are willing to listen to them and benefit from their guidance and assistance. They watch everything we do, and help us to create and design whatever circumstances we require in order to fulfill our intended experiences for this lifetime.

Our spirit guides will not only guide us to fulfill the intentions that we set before this lifetime, but they will also help us to fulfill whatever intentions we set for ourselves throughout this lifetime. Your spirit guides cannot save you from yourself, they can only support you on the path and the frequency that you are on. If you change your mind and change your intention for yourself at any time, then your spirit guides will help you to make those changes. Sometimes, in order to make those changes, you will require new spirit guides, so a new group of teachers will come in to help you to manifest your newly intended experiences based on the frequencies of your thoughts, feelings, words and actions.

Your spirit guides often prevent you from having accidents, illnesses, poverty, unhappiness, disappointment and grief, but only if that is your choice, and only if that is for your highest and best good. If having an accident or illness is part of your intended life plan, and is somehow a part of your awakening, or essential for your learning and growth process, then your spirit guides cannot interfere with that accident or illness. Under those circumstances, your spirit guides can only assist you to get the most out of the experience so that you may learn and grow to the best of your ability, but even then, you have choice. You can choose to feel sorry for yourself and succumb to a victim consciousness, paralyzing yourself in self-pity, or you can choose to take your power and do your best to manage and navigate the given situation.

Your spirit guides will help you create the circumstances that you need to experience, but then it is entirely up to you as to how you choose to experience them. Whether you choose to be happy or unhappy is up to you, no matter what the circumstances are. Some people are happy being poor, and some people are unhappy being rich - the circumstances themselves do not determine the outcome, it is our response to our circumstances that determines our experiences of life. Some souls may be born into poverty, but a soul can choose to overcome poverty with will and intent (like Oprah and many others have chosen to do), and that soul's spirit guides will help them to achieve and accomplish whatever that soul chooses to achieve and accomplish.

Disappointment is a matter of perspective and expectation. You can only be disappointed if you have an expectation of having a particular experience, and choose to respond with a reaction of pain if the outcome is different than expected. Our spirit guides cannot help us with disappointment, because being disappointed is entirely our choice. We can respond and react to life's circumstances and experiences in any way we choose to. Some people respond to disappointment by becoming even more determined, some people become more creative and ingenious, some people find ways to be more flexible, some people choose peaceful acceptance, and some choose anger, pain, victimization, self-pity, hurt, resentment, etc. These are all choices that only each individual can make because we have Free Will, and each of these choices will impact our situation differently, creating an entirely different outcome depending on our choice and perspective.

Grief is part of life. In our current paradigm on Earth, we experience life and death, love and loss in the ebb and flow of time. Our spirit guides cannot prevent us from feeling grief or experiencing loss, but they can help us to heal and grow through it. Our spirit guides can assist us to feel peace, if we are willing. Pain is part of the human experience, and we all tend to react to pain and grief in different ways. Some people push others away when they are in pain, which also pushes the spirit guides away and prevents them from being able to help; this only prolongs the pain. Some people call out for help when they are in pain, reaching out to others and to spirit, which allows others, including the spirit guides, to help them to find peace and to heal their pain. Help can only be given to those who are willing to receive it. We must ask for help in order to receive it, because no one can override our Free Will, not even our spirit guides.

Ultimately, our spirit guides help us throughout our life to fulfill our purpose and carry out our intentions, whatever they may be. We may forget what our original intentions were, and wonder how we ever ended up in our life circumstances, but our spirit guides are there to help us through this process. At any time, we are free to choose to set any intention for ourselves and for our life, and our spirit guides will then assist us to fulfill those intentions. If you have an illness and your heartfelt intention is to heal, then your spirit guides will help you to find the right people and the best methods for you to heal. If your heartfelt intention is to be abundant and happy, then your spirit guides will help you to create the circumstances for you to experience happiness and abundance.

Above all, remember that your spirit guides are there to help you and guide you throughout this lifetime. Be grateful to them for the assistance you have received thus far, acknowledging that they have helped you to learn and grow through your experiences. Then consciously choose, with all of your heart and your will, what you intend to experience in your life, and ask your spirit guides to help you. Then be willing to listen, to pay attention, and to let them guide you and help you, for that is the purpose and mission of your spirit guides.


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