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PLANTING SEEDS OF CHANGE &
WEEDING OUT NEGATIVITY
Question: "This week is probably the best I have felt in 2 years and I think it is because of our last session and my trip. Yesterday I talked to [my friend who also had a reading with you]. She thinks you have really helped her relax and enjoy life a little more. Although I am feeling good, I feel like I am balancing very delicately and could easily be pushed over. In fact, last night, a negative conversation with a good friend has set me back a bit. I am hoping that I will be able to work myself back to the place I was prior to talking to her. All that has happened is it has arisen self-doubting thoughts. How do I tackle that mountain, Grace? I hope you don't mind the update. I thought you might like to know the difference you are making in my life and in my friend's life."
Psychic Advice : When we make changes in our lives, it is like planting a new seed of what we want to grow in the garden of our life. At first, it may take a while for that seed to germinate, and we must water it and nurture it with our thoughts and attention. It may seem like nothing is happening in the beginning, because growth is taking place under the surface where no one can see it, but that seed of change is forming roots that must first be grounded before the change starts to become visible.
When we see the first shoots from that seed break the surface, we are excited, because we can see the fruits of our labors starting to take form, but that seedling is still very fragile. We must be very careful at this earliest stage of growth not to allow anyone to trample the seedling of change that is starting to bloom in our garden. We must protect that new life until it has grown strong, and we must nurture it with plenty of light, feed it constantly with our positive thoughts, and water it regularly with our emotions of joy, passion, love and excitement.
Negative thoughts are like weeds in the garden. Nature abhors a vacuum, and will immediately fill any empty space. If you do not plant enough positive seeds, then weeds of negativity will start to grow in the cracks. What do you do when you see weeds in your garden? Do you freak out, fearing that they are taking over, and worrying that the beautiful garden you are planting will be ruined? That will only happen if you do nothing about the weeds of negativity - if you allow them to continue growing, then they will take over the garden of your mind and of your life, because weeds grow prolifically if left unchecked. They can rob the light from the seeds you have planted, overshadowing them and choking the life out of them, but only if you allow this to occur. Since you love your garden, and you love the seeds you have planted, you can recognize the weeds of negativity, and choose to carefully weed them out of the garden of your mind.
You do not need to hate the weeds of negativity, or to be afraid of them. Simply pull them out gently, getting as much of the root as you can. Of course, if you don't get to the root of what is causing the weeds of negative thoughts to grow in your mind, then those weeds of negativity will grow back, but you can always pull them out again. The key is not to focus all your energy on the negative weeds, but focus your energy, time and attention on nurturing the seeds that you want to grow. If you focus on growing plenty of positive seeds, there will be no more room for weeds to grow and those that do you can pull out right away.
As you nurture these seeds of change that you have planted, they will grow strong and flourish, becoming very resilient to withstand any storms that come their way. In time, these seedlings will become the garden of your life, and the seeds that you have planted will blossom and bear abundant fruit. As with all gardens, you must be patient, nurturing and diligent in growing the garden of your dreams.
Remember, it is your garden, and only you can decide what you choose to plant there, and what you consider to be weeds. Not everyone will like the look of your garden, and they may even try to tell you what to plant where, what to keep and what to pull out. But it is not up to them to tell you what to grow in the garden of your life, they have their own garden to tend.
Some people do not like change at all, they want all gardens to look the same, and stay the same, because then they feel in control. When you start to change your life, it causes a ripple effect that changes everything and everyone around you - like the butterfly effect, because we are all connected. When you change, some of the people in your life will grow and change with you, like your friend who was willing to have a reading with me. She has decided to change her life also, so she can be happy, and you are both changing and growing together.
You can always reach out a hand to help someone else to grow with you to the next level, but you can only offer your hand for so long before you must choose to move onward and upward, perhaps even leaving them behind. Some people may not want to change at all, and they won't want you to change either, because your changes affect them. These people will have a tendency to want to pull you back down into old places where they are more comfortable, because they want to keep things the way they were. You may find yourself needing to spend less time with these people who are attached to the old you.
Remember that you cannot make anyone else happy, because you cannot make anyone do anything they don't want to do. Some people may not even want to be happy, and you may have to accept that perhaps they are happy being unhappy. Perhaps they like to grow weeds in their garden, because they like the flowers those weeds produce in the garden of their lives. That is up to them, but you do not have to allow them to scatter the seeds of their weeds in your garden. Some of those seeds will naturally get carried on the wind from your neighbor's garden, but as they start to grow, you pull them out of your garden and do not let them take hold.
Nurture the seedlings of positive change that are starting to show in your life right now, and do not let the weeds of self-doubt take over the fertile garden of your mind. They are simply weeds, and you must lovingly pull them out, honoring and nurturing all that you choose to grow right now. Be patient, soon your garden will be in full bloom. And remember, if something you have planted is not to your liking, you can always pull it out and plant something new. Such is the nature of the garden of life.
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