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FEELING LUCKY?
Question: "I have experienced a monopoly of bad 'luck'. I am wondering if my situation will ever improve financially and romantically. I am a working single mother."
Psychic Advice : I can sense your frustration and weariness in your question. It is essential to understand that everything in our Universe is electromagnetic energy, and we are electromagnetic beings. We are magnets that attract certain energies and experiences to us based on our thoughts, beliefs and feelings. Our thoughts and beliefs are magnetic, attracting everything that is on the same wavelength and frequency; our emotions electrify and intensify that magnetic energy, amplifying the power of our thoughts and beliefs.
If you want to change your life and your reality, you must begin by changing your mind. Your mind holds the key to your experience of life and you can change your past, present and future by changing your thoughts and beliefs, which will also shift your emotions and your feelings about yourself and your life. What you believe is what you will perceive and experience.
If you believe you are unlucky, then that belief is what you will see reflected in your life experiences, because that is the belief that you hold about yourself which has become part of your identity. The question is, which came first, the belief or the experience that supports it? If you have a belief that you are not worthy or don't deserve good things, then you will not experience things as being good, even if they are good experiences. Life will always live up to your expectations, or down to them, as the case may be.
Sometimes expecting to be disappointed becomes a form of control. If you have experienced a great deal of disappointment in life, it may seem easier to expect disappointment because then you can't be disappointed or hurt - you control the outcome by bracing for pain, therefore it cannot take you by surprise because you are expecting it. The problem is that expecting disappointment draws disappointment, and does not allow for other possibilities. Even if you are pleasantly surprised (people who are used to being disappointed usually do not like or trust surprises), your mindset of expecting disappointment will have you looking for flaws and focused on negatives so you can't really enjoy the blessing.
I have often heard people say, "If it weren't for bad luck, I wouldn't have any luck at all". This negative belief system is a trap that empowers a pattern of negative experiences, and will not allow for that pattern of luck to change. It is a perspective and belief system that brings a person's energy down, and can lead to despair and depression, which creates a gloomy outlook that clouds all of life's experiences. If you go through life seeing through very dark glasses, you will never experience or know the brightness of the light available to you, but as soon as you are willing to take those dark glasses off, it changes how you see and experience everything around you. If you have worn those dark glasses for a long time, the light may be so bright as to be uncomfortable at first, but as you allow yourself to get used to living in the light, everything will be brighter and clearer than you ever perceived it before.
The energy of being lucky and fortunate holds a very high frequency of vibration, while the energy of being unlucky or unfortunate holds a very low frequency of vibration. Remember that everything is energy, and that energy exists on certain wavelengths and frequencies of vibration. The faster the energy vibrates, the higher the frequency, and conversely, the slower the energy vibrates, the lower the frequency. Positive emotions hold a very high frequency, because they vibrate very quickly - think of the energy that you feel when you are happy, excited, joyful or passionate - you feel very "up" because these emotions are uplifting and vibrating at a high frequency of energy.
Now think of emotions such as sadness, disappointment, hurt, despair, depression, hopelessness - these energies bring you down because they vibrate at a very low frequency. Like attracts like energy, so the more you resonate at a particular frequency of emotion, the more you will attract energies and experiences that are resonating on those frequencies: positive emotions attract positive experiences, and negative emotions attract negative experiences. The biggest problem with negative emotions is that the longer you stay in them, the deeper down you are likely to go, because they continue to attract negative energies and experiences that resonate on those low frequencies. Also, low emotions drain your energy, dragging you down further and further. The only way up is to consciously and consistently choose positive thoughts and emotions, which energize you and raise your vibration, even if you have to "fake it till you make it". Just as with physical exercise, it takes a lot of energy to get started with exercising, but the more you exercise, the more energy it ultimately gives you (physical exercise also raises your vibration, which becomes emotionally uplifting).
If you are in a negative frame of mind, then even if you have positive experiences, you may have difficulty enjoying them. Life's experiences are often a matter of perspective. There are people who love the rain, and others who let it ruin their day - it is not the rain that makes the difference, but one's attitude and perspective about it. There is a saying: "Into each life a little rain must fall". In nature, we need the rain in order for things to grow, and the rainy days of our lives offer us opportunities to grow as well.
You may have experienced a series of unpleasant experiences, but instead of looking at your life from a deficit perspective, try looking at what you have, and what you have gained in your life. If you look at the glass as being half empty, then your negative thoughts will continue to drain it, making it emptier and emptier until there is nothing left, but if you choose to see the glass as half full, then each thought you think fills it more and more until it is so full that it is overflowing.
You can choose to focus your thoughts on the painful challenges of being a single mother, or you can honor your strength and courage to be the best mother that you can be in any given situation. Look for the positive things in your life. The more you focus on being grateful, the more you will have to feel grateful for, because like attracts like. Gratitude holds a very high vibration, and will attract everything that is on that higher frequency, so gratitude can change your life. Count your blessings each day, and you will have more and more blessings to count on - I promise you that this is how life works. Attitude is everything because everything is energy, and your attitude, thoughts, feelings and perspectives affect your energy, which determines what energy and experiences you draw to you.
It may take a little time to shift the old patterns, so you must commit to holding the attitude of gratitude. Start and end each day with affirmations stating: "I am so grateful for ______", and "I am so lucky to be/have _________" - say these affirmations to yourself as often as possible throughout the day, and even have them written down around your house and on your mirror. When things don't go perfectly, instead of holding a negative perspective of bad luck, see what could possibly be good about the situation - what have you learned or gained from it?
Sometimes you can only see the big picture in hindsight, and sometimes you may not be able to see it all, so you must have faith. A few years ago, my husband and I were in a hurry driving along the highway, and decided to get some french fries at a drive-through instead of stopping; we got really upset that it took over fifteen minutes, but when we got back on the highway, there had been a horrific accident that our "slow fast food" had saved us from.
As long as you see life as a struggle, then it can only be a struggle. If you count everything as a blessing, then everything will be a blessing, and you will be truly blessed. This is when you will feel rich in your life, and you will attract more ease and wealth. Your thoughts and beliefs determine your experience.
When you allow yourself to feel blessed in life, your energy changes - you become lighter, your burdens start to lift, and the world looks brighter. When you raise your energy to joy and gratitude, your energy shines, and that is attractive to all that is on higher frequencies. Movie stars shine their light so brightly that they are irresistibly attractive and people give them things - some may not be physically beautiful, but the light they shine makes them attractive, so they attract more light, joy and blessings. This is how the rich get richer, because like attracts like.
If you resonate victim energy, you attract victimizers and victimization - this is the energy of prey and survival of the fittest. If you resonate an air of confidence and love of life, then you will attract people, energies, situations and experiences that will support that. The more you love life, the more love you shine into the world, and the more love you will attract into your life.
If you truly want to change your luck and change the patterns that you experience in life, then you must change how you feel about yourself and your life, which means that you must change your thoughts and beliefs. You always have the power to change your mind, and changing your mind will change your life.
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