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HOW TO LIVE A FULFILLING LIFE

Question: "I feel as though I was meant to live a much more dynamic life than what I've ended up with so far. I am wondering about what the future holds for me.... if I should remain contented with my good fortune to date, or if I should pursue my larger dreams?"

"Psychic Advice":
In order to have a true sense of inner fulfillment and spiritual fulfillment, you need to be content and grateful for the good fortune that you are experiencing to date, while also seeking to fulfill the dream. The visions, dreams and ideas we have are seeds planted by inspiration - inspiration is letting spirit in to move us to do something meaningful, joyful and fulfilling. Following your joy and inspiration is how you live a fulfilling life.

Self-fulfillment requires that you meet the needs of all sides and aspects of yourself. Many people lead a fragmented life, where they work in one area to make a living, then focus whatever energy is left on their family, and then maybe do the things they really love in their time off. It is more important to live a fulfilling life than it is to focus on making a living. Money can buy a lot of things, but it cannot buy inner fulfillment. Money and the things it can buy only have the meaning we give to them - in and of themselves, they are meaningless. Your beliefs, thoughts, feelings, will, and determination are the things that either support you to prosper doing what you love to do, or limit you from making a living doing what you truly love.

Inner fulfillment comes from living a meaningful life, but only you can decide what is truly meaningful to you. Our media and society like to dictate to us what is meaningful and valuable, and what will give us fulfillment. We are constantly being sold the idea that if we have a certain car, wear a certain pair of shoes, or look a certain way, then we will feel happy and fulfilled. But this pursuit of external things to give us a sense of inner fulfillment only leaves us feeling empty, hungry and searching for more, which often drives depression, restlessness and addiction.

Self fulfillment comes from doing the things you truly love that really give you joy, because only love and joy can fill the void within. The things you truly love are the things that are most meaningful to you, and focusing your time and energy on those things will not only fill you with joy and wellbeing, but they will also lead you to feel satisfaction and fulfillment in life.

Most people are on an endless quest for a sense of inner fulfillment. This seemingly insatiable hunger often leads them to make constant changes, from changing jobs and careers, to moving or redecorating homes, embarking on new projects or causes, shopping for new things or clothing, or even starting and ending relationships. What they are really questing for is a sense of meaning and spiritual fulfillment.

This quest can trigger a so-called "mid-life crisis" that often hits people in their forties. This is a time when a person generally examines and reflects upon the life they've led to date. Whether they are consciously aware of it or not, what they are assessing is whether the choices they've made up until that point have given them a sense of meaning and fulfillment. Many people find that they may have met many of their goals, only to find them to be empty and unfulfilling because they were external goals that offered no real meaning or spiritual fulfillment. When people arrive at what they thought they wanted only to find that it isn't what they really want at all, it can be painful, or even devastating.

Mid-life is often a time of transition and transformation when a person's priorities start to change, so they start to make changes in the unfulfilling areas of their life. Some people take a radical approach and change everything around them, but the most important changes are the shifts one makes within oneself that bring about inner fulfillment. These changes can be gentle and gradual - the key is to follow what you truly love and what gives you joy, because these will lead you to your truth.

The future holds what you choose to believe and what you decide for yourself - what you hold in your mind is what you will attract and experience in your future. Most people seek to pursue happiness, but happiness is a fleeting emotion, while joy is a state of being. While many people would be content with being content, or satisfied with being satisfied, neither of these energies gives a true sense of self-fulfillment. You must fill yourself with love and joy in order to feel fulfilled.

Seeking change for the sake of change is not necessarily fulfilling - it can put one on an endless treadmill of the eternal quest or hunger for meaning and self-fulfillment. A dynamic life is often one that is characterized by constant change and activity, but this can feel like you've got a constant sense of yearning for something else. This is why it is so important to be grateful for what you already have, because gratitude gives you a feeling of fullness, of contentment and satisfaction, while yearning simply leaves you feeling hungry.

It is fine to want more out of life, because this encourages us to grow rather than letting contentment stagnate us. But when we seek more, it must be from a desire to grow, stretch and evolve rather than from a desire to run from feelings of emptiness and lack of fulfillment. However, those feelings of emptiness and lack of fulfillment are signals and messages for us to examine our life and determine what we need to change.

In order to experience true self-fulfillment, you need to fill your heart and soul with the things that give you peace, joy, and profound satisfaction. What you really want to do is make a list for yourself of the things that are most important to you in life and the things that are most meaningful. Then make a second list of all the things that you love in life and all that gives you joy. Write a third list of the type of lifestyle you want to have and how you want to live your life. Then look at these three lists side-by-side and see how you can apply as many of those elements as possible in your life. The key is to do so in a focused way, rather than in a fragmented way. Put as many of those elements as you can into one or two main focuses, so you can devote yourself wholeheartedly to them and not spread yourself too thin trying to satisfy the different parts of yourself. This is the key to finding a fulfilling career, life path and vocation.

Living a dynamic and fulfilling life is not about how much you do, it is about how much you love what you do, and how much you do what you love. Filling your heart, your mind, your spirit and your time with joy is the key for how to live a fulfilling life.


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